After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you: Begin with a good greeting. Start with Assalamau 'Aliaykum and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and a du'aa for her as well. Shake her hand and leave bad news for later! Sweet Speech and Enchanting Invitations Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones. Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks. Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands. Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart, honey, saaliha, etc.