Top 8 Signs That It's Time to Walk Away From a Relationship
You may think you’re doing yourself a favor by keeping the relationship together for as long as possible, but you'll be making it harder for both of you to heal. Sometimes the best act of love that we can show is the strength to walk away, even when it feels like there is no one around you who will love you. In fact, walking away from someone you love may be the best thing for both of you.
| February 01, 2021
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How do you know when it's the right time to walk away from a relationship? This question is fraught with landmines—it's never easy to walk away from someone you love, but sometimes it's the best thing for you. There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to love. Some people stay in the worst relationships because they cannot bear to be apart from the person they fell in love with, or because they hate the idea of being alone. Everyone knows one pf these people. But when it comes to personal safety, there are a few red flags everyone should be able to spot as a warning sign. These are signals that its time to not only reevaluate why you're with this person, but whether or not you will continue to be with them.
Top 8 signs that it's time to walk away from a relationship:
A sense of apathy about the relationship
Is time you spend together stagnant? Do you feel as if the other person isn't trying as hard as you might be? Do they seem to have given up on the relationship? If you notice these things, it may signal that the person you're with just isn't emotionally in the same place as you are anymore. Boring should not be one of the ways you describe the time you are with each other—life shouldn't be wasted being just "eh" about everything. Know that there are so many other people that could give you all the exciting aspects of being in a relationship and still love you just as much.
You would rather spend time with other people
Wanting to be around your friends as opposed to your boyfriend or girlfriend is perfectly natural. Independence is an extremely attractive trait, and the more time you spend with others, the more you have to talk about once you do see each other again. However, when you start looking more forward to the time spent with friends rather than your loved one, then there's a problem. This is the one person you have chosen to be with, and if its become obvious that you're not enjoying time with this person anymore, then it's time to reevaluate.
Jealousy
This is a trait that is never attractive in a person. If there arises an issue of them exerting control over who you are with, where you go, and when you go, then you really need to look at why you have allowed it thus far. Jealousy should never be attributed to them just loving you "too much." It's about control, plain and simple. If you notice it getting out of hand, get out of the relationship right away—it will only get worse with time.
Straying Eyes
No one is worth this. If they have straying eyes, and it makes you feel as if you're simply not enough, then walk away. Not only can this cause the prior point (jealousy,) but it's degrading to see the person you love looking hungrily after someone else. You should be their main focus when you're together, not the attractive woman sitting two tables away. Take this as your cue to exit; it's just something no one should have to put up with.
No effort on their part
If you're doing 80% and they're only doing 20%, it doesn't matter how hard you work on the relationship. If they're not pulling their weight and trying to make it work as hard as you are, you'll eventually get tired and frustrated. If you feel like you're making all the effort and they've given up, there's simply no way to carry on a relationship. After all, it's about two people coming together to make a lasting bond, not one person pulling the weight of the other.
The bad times far outweigh the good
Do you fight all the time? Are you constantly bickering, shouting, giving each other the cold shoulder? If it seems to you that the bad times and the arguments are all you seem to be experiencing, then perhaps it's time to move on. Of course most couples have lots of good times—that's why they're together in the first place. But if all you ever remember are the bad times and the good memories seem to just be fading with time, then that's a signal that the relationship probably wont be getting any better.
You've got nothing to talk about
Do you ever have anything left to say to that person anymore? Do your conversations always seem dull, lifeless and more of the same over and over again? That's a sign that you've grown tired of each other and don't have very much in common anymore. And if there's a universal component of what makes a couple happy, it's being able to communicate with each other. Without that, you'll find yourself in a boring and lifeless relationship, and life is much too short to spend it with someone you find as dull as a rock.
Core Disagreements
Is he or she firmly against marriage or kids? Or do they never want to movie out of state, or get a stable job? If these are important issues to you and you don't agree on these things now, there's a high probability that they wont change their minds in the future, no matter how much you poke and prod them, trying to change their mind. If there are issues that are very close to your heart and are integral to who you are and how you think—and those are the very issues that you cant agree on, then it's time to end it. If you can somehow compromise, then it could work out, but most times, people stay stubborn and unflinching in their ideals.